going beyond one.self

"When we are in conflict we tend to make such sharp oppositions between ideas and attitudes and get caught and entangled in what seems to be a hopeless choice, but when the neurotic ambivalence is resolved one tends to move beyond sharp differences, sharply defined boundaries and begins to see the interaction between everything, the relation between everything.

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I opposed subjective to objective, imagination to realism. I thought that having gone so deeply into my own feelings and dramas I could never again reach objectivity and knowledge of others. But now I know that any experience carried out deeply to its ultimate leads you beyond yourself into a larger relation to the experience of others. If you intensify and complete your subjective emotions, visions, you see their relation to others’ emotions. It is not a question of choosing between them, one at the cost of another, but a matter of completion, of inclusion, an encompassing, unifying, and integrating which makes maturity."

Anaïs Nin

key phrase: "Any experience carried out deeply to its ultimate leads you beyond yourself into a larger relation to the experience of others."

[distance.

absence of judgement.

contemplation of things as they are to make non-ego driven decisions.

understanding of one's limits/boundaries.

no mere re-actions to the actions and projections of others.

release.

acceptance of self and others.]